Are you a woman wondering how to be content with being single? I started dating my husband around the age of 31 and was married at 32. Being in my 30s at the time of this relationship beginning meant that I spent a significant portion of my 20s living the single life. During that period, I spent a lot of time hanging out with friends, going on dates, and wondering about my future.
There are aspects of single-hood that I don’t miss at all (hello bad dates with guys I met online). But there are some things that I miss tremendously and look back on with fondness.
Being single can be both an exciting time of life and a frustrating one, depending on how you look at it. You don’t have a partner, so it’s natural to sometimes struggle with loneliness.
But you also have so much time to yourself and so many possibilities about how you can spend that time. That free time is something I genuinely miss about my single years!
No matter how you currently feel about your singleness, I think that if you think about it the right way, it can be an enjoyable season of life. Your attitude and your ability to trust God’s plan make a huge difference.
As I look back on this time, here are some tips I would give my younger self to really maximize this season.
I’ve said it before on this blog, but I am so grateful that I didn’t get married any earlier than I did. I had undiagnosed bipolar disorder, and I had a few episodes of psychosis in my early 30s. While I am now stable and confident that this disorder is under control, I’m thankful that I learned to cope before I started a family.
While I was not violent, I wasn’t thinking clearly, and I’m glad that I was not a caretaker of a child during that season. For me, Gods timing was impeccable. As soon as these things in my life were handled, he blessed me with a family. Looking back, I totally understand why I had to wait for these blessings.
[Psychosis, Bipolar Disorder, and Faith: How Renewing My Mind Led to Healing]
Even if you aren’t wrestling with mental health, if God is having you wait, you can trust he has a reason. Someday you will look back on your life and understand what that reason was. Trust him and know that his timing will be impeccable!
One thing I look back on fondly is the closeness of the friendships I had during the season of being single. I have good friends now, but most of my relational energy is spent on my family.
I have never been able to be as close to my best friends now as I was during my single years. It’s okay, because my husband is my best friend, and I love having him in my life. But I still sometimes miss the way friendships were when I didn’t have a family.
Another thing I really miss is my free time. Last year, my husband and daughter took a trip together, leaving me alone for two whole days. I was honestly in heaven – I did so many creative projects and accomplished so much without being constantly interrupted with other responsibilities.
I haven’t been able to be so creative and focused since having a kid. If you still have this kind of free time, please enjoy it and take advantage of it! It’s a blessing, and something I wish I had more often.
Being single is a good time to get closer to God and work on yourself. I have a more difficult time studying the Bible for long periods of time since having a kid.
Spend time with God, getting deep into scripture. Spend time in prayer for your future. And allow God to work on your heart so you can be the best version of you.
That’s not to say that he is waiting on you to be “good enough” to get married, or that married folks have better character than single ones. As a married woman, I can attest that I’m far from perfect and God is still working on me.
But it can be easier to have focused time with God when you don’t have a family to care for. Take advantage of that!
Gratitude is something that can make a huge difference in how you view your life. If you are ungrateful, you’ll focus on all the negative things about being single.
Instead, remind yourself of the good things in your life and focus on those things. Thank God for all of the blessings he’s given you, and make an effort to enjoy them to the fullest. Gratitude can really change everything, if you choose to dwell in it.
If you can’t figure out how to be content with being single, it’s important to self-evaluate. Are you trusting God’s timing in your life? Do you truly enjoy the other relationships that he has blessed you with? Are you grateful for the things you do have?
It’s okay to sometimes feel frustrated over your singleness, but don’t let those feelings overshadow everything that God has done in your life. He has a purpose for this season, and you may come to regret it later on if you don’t make the most of it.
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